April 2016

Dear parents, parents-2-b, moms, dads, caregivers, social workers, support group leaders, grandparents & educators [in short Proud2Believers]

Urgent note 2 self: Time to simplify my life 2 amplify my family time

I invite you to scroll down to this month’s parenting/leadership toolkit for guidelines on How To Simplify My Life 2 Amplify My Family Time. Change is never easy but reality is…it starts with ME. These are some hands-on tips for primary and secondary caregivers, which we invite you to share with your family, colleagues and community members. If you do not yet receive this free electronic monthly toolkit directly from Proud2b ME® and you would like to receive it, please click here.

Phew, it is noticeable everywhere around us, people are hungry for a simpler lifestyle. It is a cliché, but it is true: the more things you own, the more they own you. Simplicity brings balance, freedom, joy and family time.

Change is in my hands, but thinking about it is not going to make anything happen. PROUD2b ME® shares our ethos of  ‘I can’t just think it! I need to ink it, share it so that I can ACTION it’. We encourage our participants to make this part of a positive and action driven lifestyle. Action has no remote, get up and DO IT yourself.

In guiding yesteryear’s children to raise responsible tomorrows parents by giving tools on how to change negative patterns, that we could have well inherited, to positive patterns for the sake of responsible citizenship, I trust you will take time to read and share this toolkit.

Here are 10 simplified strategies for THINKing, INKing, SHARing and ACTIONing:

1. Your Possessions. Too many material possessions complicate our lives to a greater degree than we ever give them credit. They drain our bank account, our energy and most of all our attention and time. They keep us from the ones we love and from living a life based on our values. Remember, children spell the word ‘love’ as T-I-M-E. Let go of useless possessions to free your mind so that you have more TIME for your family.

2. Your Time Commitments. Most of us have filled our days full from beginning to end with time commitments: work, home, kid’s activities, community events, religious endeavors, hobbies… the list goes on. When possible, release yourself from the time commitments that are not in line with your greatest values.

3. Your Goals. Reduce the number of goals you are intentionally striving for in your life to one or two. By reducing the number of goals that you are striving to accomplish, you will improve your focus and your success rate. Make a list of the things that you want to accomplish in your life and choose the two most important. When you finish one, add another from your list.

4. Your Negative Thoughts. Most negative emotions are completely useless. Resentment, bitterness, hate, and jealousy have never improved the quality of life for a single human being. Take responsibility for your mind. Forgive past hurts and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Remember, changing negative patterns to positive patterns is in our hands. It starts with ME!

5. Your Debt. If debt is holding you captive, reduce it. Start today. Do what you’ve got to do to get out from under its weight. Find the help that you need. Sacrifice luxury today to enjoy freedom tomorrow.

6. Your Words. Use fewer words. Keep your speech plain and honest. Mean what you say. Avoid gossip. Less is more 😉

7. Your Screen Time. Focusing your attention on television, movies, video games, and technology affects your life more than you think. Media rearranges your values. It begins to dominate your life. And it has a profound impact on your attitude and outlook. Unfortunately, when you live in that world on a consistent basis, you don’t even notice how it is impacting you. The only way to fully appreciate its influence in your life is to turn them off.

8. Your Connections to the World. Relationships with others are good, but constant streams of distraction are bad. Learn when to power off the blackberry, log off Facebook, or not read a text. Focus on the important, not the urgent. A steady flow of distractions from other people may make us feel important, needed, or wanted, but feeling important and accomplishing importance are completely different things.

9. Your Artificial Ingredients. Avoid trans fats, refined grain (white bread), high-fructose corn syrup, and too much sodium. Minimising these ingredients will improve your energy level in the short-term and your health in the long-term. Also, as much as possible, reduce your consumption of over-the-counter medicine – allow your body to heal itself naturally as opposed to building a dependency on substances.

10. Your Multi-Tasking. Research indicates that multi-tasking increases stress and lowers productivity. While single-tasking is becoming a lost art, learn it. Handle one task at a time. Do it well. And when it is complete, move to the next.

[source: Joshua Becker]