Parenting/Leadership Toolkit … since 2003
26 October 2015
Dear parents, parents-2-b, moms, dads, caregivers, social workers, support group leaders, grandparents & educators [in short Proud2Believers]
Phew….exams, bills, kids, household chores, crime, spousal relationships… all can cause family stress. In addition to day-to-day stressors, crises like crime or a death within the family place maximum stress on family relationships. However, learning to cope with daily family stress strengthens your family and makes it easier to cope with family crisis as well.
Especially these days when both partners in a family have careers and children are involved in diverse extra-curricular activities, it’s very easy for the family unit to break down, resulting in a number of separate individuals living under one roof. Each individual becomes isolated, facing his/her own problems and left to solve them on their own. Abraham Lincoln said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” Although he was talking about the US in time of Civil War, for families his statement is literally true. Unfortunately, stress for one member of a family stresses and often divides the entire family. When one part is stressed, the whole unit can collapse. The solution is to work through problems as a family, but for the solution to be effective, the family unit needs to be strong.
At PROUD2b ME® we teach and guide participants to our programmes to face challenges with possible solutions. Scroll down to this week’s parenting/leadership toolkit for guidelines on how to manage family stress. Change is never easy but reality is…it starts with ME.
These are some hands-on tips for primary and secondary caregivers, which we invite you to share with your family, colleagues and community members. If you do not yet receive this free electronic monthly toolkit directly from Proud2b ME® and you would like to receive it, please click here.
————————————Guidelines on how to manage FAMILY STRESS
Change is in my hands, but thinking about it is not going to make anything happen. At PROUD2b ME® we share our ethos of ‘I can’t just think it, I need to ink it, share it so that I can action it’. We encourage our proud2believers to make this part of your positive lifestyle.
So here is my handful of tips on Managing Family Stress:
Take Time for the Family
Family togetherness doesn’t mean constantly holding hands. Neither does it mean that if Ringo and Dad like football, Mom and Luca have to like it, too. The phrase quality time has become clichéd with over-use, but it is quality time spent together that reduces daily family stress and builds strong families that can weather both small storms and large crises.
Managing Family Stress
A strong family unit develops the tools to solve stressors, reducing stress for the entire family. Problems that stress families may be either individual stressors that carry over to the whole family such as school suspensions, addictions, mental disorders, or physical illnesses or family crises such as a death in the family, financial problems, burglary or fire.
When managing individual stressors that affect the family, keep a few tips in mind:
In summary, building a strong family unit that effectively manages day-to-day stressors not only makes your home a place for each member to relax, recharge, and rejuvenate but also builds the skills necessary for the family to come together in a crisis and effectively manage family stress.